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It may be tempting to think of Knights as predominantly male and Gardeners as predominantly female, but gender has nothing to do with it. Men may play the Gardener role in families and romance. Men buy many more tools and build many more projects than they buy weapons and go to war.

Women can play the Knight’s role in families and romance. Women may play the Knight’s game of discerning who their “allies and enemies” are in family systems and workplaces. And they may consider the choice between raising children and having a successful career to be an “either/or” choice or a zero-sum game. Some professional women may characterize their workplaces as embroiled in a “battle of the sexes.” Women seek out the dragons they believe threaten themselves or their loved ones just as men do.